Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Its the most wonderful time of year

I love the Holidays and it comes from my family who always makes it special. So much so my brothers friend John would come and spend it with us (This is him and my brother and I a few christmases ago). We grow up I guess and now he has a relationship and spends the holidays with her.

But now I get to take Wes home and share with his family the holidays. For the past two years we spent Thanksgiving at my moms. The first year we spent the holidays apart. It was the longest we were apart, not going to lie I cried at the airport. Last year I spent Christmas in Georgia with his family and it was scary and wonderful and I love creating new memories with Wes and his family and it makes it even more special that we will get to spend it with my family.

I'm all about details and little things about the holidays and thankfully I met a guy that love this about me and helps me with it!

We always go Christmas light looking (a tradition my family had) We try and do fun things around L.A. Last year we got a forever potted Christmas tree and started taking Christmas card photos. We eat special foods with certain Christmas movies and specials, I love the traditions we are building together!

I love the food too from the continuing pumpkin to all the egg nog, Gingerbread cookies from Coffee bean became a thing for me last year. My mom makes amazing stuff every year and so thats going to be great to share with Wes.

What do you love about the Holidays?

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving from us Wes and Kelly!

You might be asking who that beautiful 4 legged lady is with us and its crazy I haven't talked to you all about Nola my service dog!

I took part in the show rescue dog to service dog on animal planet and the paired me with a service dog to help fit the needs of my disability (12 others got this as well, you should check it out). Two trainers found Nola in a shelter  for me to work and learn to be my counter balence dog and help me walk without the assistance of my canes. We then work with the two trainers to get Nola to the point of being my service dog.

We filmed the show and it was a great experience but let me tell you they cut out a lot from the episode so for those of you that have seen it and have any questions please feel free to ask.

She goes most places with me and does really well. She's been to the movies, Disneyland, and so much more!

Nola is a 3 year old Great Dane and her color is Tri-colored Merle. She's my beautiful girl and such a wonderful dog!

Here we are at a local beach cleanup, LBclean. She has a special harness donated by bold lead designs and it has a special handle for me to hold onto is and is made so beautifully!

She went with us  to Georgia to meet Wes's family and did great. She even flies with us on the plane (she lays at our feet and little bit of the person in the row with us but no one seemed to mind) she did so well!

I'm thankful for everything I have as always but this Thanksgiving (My first with Nola) I'm so thankful for this addition to my family! 

Monday, November 20, 2017

its good to remember

No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.

Even if its over where to place a chair in your apartment.....

Monday, November 13, 2017

Its not like the movies

honestly some of y’all want a significant other so badly and can’t understand why you can’t find one, but have no sense of boundaries or healthy expectations of what a relationship is like. 

in a committed long-term partnership you get left on red, you wait for texts back, and you can forget about each other when you’re busy. sometimes you fall asleep without saying goodnight and sometimes you’re too caught up to text each other before 6pm. that’s how it is. 

thinking that you can’t be deeply, beautifully in love and still wait more than “1.75 hours” for a text back is such an unhealthy and unreasonable expectation of what love is, and you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you can’t allow the other person to exist on their own apart from you. if you’re projecting your anxieties and insecurities onto a partner who doesn’t even exist yet, then you aren’t ready for one.

It is however much butter then I could of dreamed it to be but I am still so glad that I hold onto the girl that I am. Now we take steps to make each other better and we do it with confidence in each other. 

Love with you

Before you, love meant something different. I was naive and a little dumb, expecting fireworks and constant grand cheesy gestures because I actually believed the movies. I dreamed of that unending adventure. 

It’s not a roller coaster; it’s a leisurely drive along the coast with the windows down, warm ocean breeze, singing along to the radio. It’s not a stomach turn and rapid heart beats and sweaty palms; it’s a sigh of relief and a warm hug and squeezing your hand while shopping for sunscreen.

 Love with you is finding ourselves on impromptu beach hikes, picking out furniture, laughing at accidental farts sitting on the couch, discussing everything and everything, and making lunches together. 

Love with you is forgetting to care about phone notifications on our whole vacation, because the only thing that mattered was how soft your bronzed skin was under my fingertips and your smile when you watched the sun sink below the horizon in the Pacific Ocean. If you told me 3 years ago I would have had all  this with you I would have bet my life against those odds. 

Yes, you still give me goosebumps and take my breath away, but often in tiny unexpected moments. My heart still speeds up every time I catch a glimpse of you. Love with you is unlike anything else I’ve ever experienced. Love with you is slow and meandering, the most low-key expedition I’ve ever been a part of. Love with you is waking-up-early-on-a-Saturday calm and fresh-sheets-from-the-dryer comfortable. 

Friday, November 10, 2017

the big relationship question

To have kids or not? thats crossing our path a lot lately! 

Sunday, January 29, 2017


As promised I said I would introduce you to the people you have been reading about in this blog!

I was born 4 1/2 months early and have Cerebral Palsy.

I am lucky because I have very supportive family

and friends


Grew up in Georgia. Works harder then anyone I know and would probably hate that I am saying all this about him. 

Come introduce yourself sometime!