Monday, November 28, 2016

When it was our one year anniversary I did some research for this blog to see what maybe other people learn after a year, I came across a post that I disagreed with almost 100% both views so let me post bit of it and give you my thoughts.

The Man’s Perspective First 

#1. Black and navy are never okay to wear together.

overall I don't care what my boyfriend wears. I might suggest to not tuck his pants into his boots when we go to a wedding but in all honesty if that's what he wants I let him. I like him for him not the clothes he wears and with that he gives me the same respect, he doesn't tell me not to cut my hair. I ask his opinion on outfits all the time and he will always tell me I look good, because he thinks I do no matter what! 

#2. Love is at its best when it’s truly a partnership and your goal is to support the other person’s success.

okay I will agree with you here buddy. We both do this for each other and I hope every relationship does this. 

#3. Even when she says farting is okay, it’s not okay. It’s never okay.

farting is a part of life and we both handle it like you should, which is funny he comes from the southern world where its a fart you ignore it, its part of life. My family cracks up at farts and find them hilarious. We find a good middle ground with this. We live together, we like to eat curry. It happens. I really hope for this couple they learn to to get over this one quickly. 

#4. A woman always wants to feel like she is being pursued and doesn’t want you to ever think the work is done.

Okay I will also give him this one, and my boyfriend does this but I would note it doesn't have to be big things. In our relationship we do things everyday for each other in little ways. 

#5. Never underestimate the power of worshipping with your significant other.

I know this one is important for religious couples. We agree 99% on religion I would say even though neither one of us really goes to church or practices a lot we have a lot of shared conversations and we respect each others viewpoints. 

The Woman’s Perspective

#1. Put down your cell phone.

I would agree, but my social media boyfriend loves his phone and I have learned to work around it. He puts it down when it's important but i don't need his undivided attention all the time so this is something I need to remember. 

#2. The worth of a man isn’t in the depth of his pockets, but the depth of his character.

I also agree on this one! Neither one us has much but we make it work (and dream someday that maybe we will have more) but we also love to pick up things on the side of the road, shop at goodwill and check out craigslist. It's fun. We also budget for fun things we really want to do but are also content eating a grilled cheese and watching bob's burgers at home. 

#3. If you let him fart once, you’ve opened Pandora’s Box.

see above 

#4. Power isn’t defined by dominance and control. It’s demonstrated in patience and grace.

How about no one has the power? 

#5. You will always have A LOT more to learn.

Okay we'll end it in a nice way but saying this is true. 

It’s me, your dream girl, in scrunched up socks and a blanket cape.

I have a surprise of you all, I have decided to come out of the hidden internet world (although it's been fun) I have decided to really blog about our lives in the New Year, maybe it will help other people and couples to see just how we are, look, and live our lives. 

A relationship with a good flirt to roast ratio>>>

is a must! 

always be the real you my readers

Your affection for others can cause you to turn yourself into a stranger.
They like your hair straight, so you straighten it. They think your genuine laugh is too obnoxious, so you tone it down at dinners and parties. They think you’re too much of a softie, so you hide your tears when they say something negative about you and pretend to have thicker skin than what’s really there. Before you know it, you’ve altered so much of yourself that you don’t even know who the hell you are anymore.
Take a stand. Whoever ‘they’ may be to you, be aware of how much you’re compromising for them. If you can no longer breathe the same way around them, it’s time to show them the door.

what is the difference between falling in love and having a crush

if they get a haircut and they’re ugly it’s a crush

In popular culture we have “the bachelor pad,” and “the bachelor lifestyle,” but no such phrases for women. Women who live alone are objects of fear or pity, witches in the forest or Cathy comics. Even the current cultural popularity of female friendship still speaks to how unwilling we all are to accept women without a social framework; a woman who’s “alone” is a woman who’s having brunch with a bunch of other women. When a woman is truly alone, it is the result of a crisis—she is grieving, has lost something, is a problem to be fixed. The family, that fundamental social unit, dwells within the female body and emanates from it. Women are the anchors of social labor, the glue pulling the family, and then the community, together with small talk and good manners and social niceties. Living alone as a woman is not just a luxury but a refusal to bend into the shape of patriarchal assumption and expectation.

A student asked a teacher:
“ whats the difference between I like you and I love you?”
The teacher beautifully answered with:
“ well its like a flower. If you like a flower, you pluck it.
If you love a flower, you water it every day and take care of it”
And if you understand that my friend, you’ll understand the concept of love and life.
— A great friend of mine told me this (via keen-z)

Texting and dating is the worst!

  • me: texting him first is too desperate. in this age, a modern woman needs to be independent. i am a strong and busy lady. i will restrain myself, and keep myself an enigma.
  • me five seconds later: life is too short to not live your passions fully. i'm going to text first; i free myself from society's restrains. without risk there is no reward

I may not have to worry about that now but the idea of it gives me chills. Stay strong my friends! 

Sometimes I need to remind myself of this

Every single relationship will get “boring” after you’ve been together for ages. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a commitment; to love every day, physically and emotionally. It’s hard afff, it’s not always laughs and smiles and fun. People tend to quit when it stops being cute. “Oh the spark is gone.” No, that’s not how it works. You want somebody to never give up on you and love you unconditionally? Do the same. This isn’t Hollywood, this isn’t romantic happy ever after bs. Love someone when you don’t want to, when they are being a fricken asshole. When they’re being hard to love. That’s thats the realist shit there is.

The first few days of being with my family was rough and I questioned things but we soon got back to ourselves and it's good to remind yourself it's not always easy! 

Friday, November 18, 2016

Busy time of year

Halloween came and went, it was amazing and fun and I love that I am dating a guy that made such a simple, and the events we did so much. After Halloween Waffle fri decided he was going to say your mom after everything I said. Thats fun. :)

Now we get ready for Holiday Travel. We are flying for the first time together to my mom's house for Thanksgiving, we had a great time last year but we drove which didn't give us much time with my family. My mom had some good money come in with work so she offered to buy our tickets so we get a nice 10 day vacation.

The bittersweet part for me is I am spending Thanksgiving with Waffle Fries Family. I am excited to go to a part of the country I have never been and to finally meet his family. She a part of this person I loves world but it is sad that I am not with my family. I had to spend a Christmas once alone for work and it was sad so at least this year I will be with people I love and who are welcoming me in like a member of their family, which I think both families look at us that way.

His sister even wants us to be a part of the Family Christmas card so we are taking a Holiday photo while at my mom's (We are putting the Christmas stuff up the day after Thanksgiving so I will get to be a part of it a little) It's going to be very Christmas and themed but then we decided maybe we will do our own and put our own spin on it and email it out to friends and family.

we are excited to eat, we love food and love sharing food together. Lately I am big on the Gingerbread cookies from Coffee Bean.

I have felt so thankful for this man the past two weeks. Fighting a cold he has taken care of me and been there and it's so wonderful. I love those little moments where I stop and realize with a smile I love my life and where it is and he makes it so much better!

We went and saw the movie sausage fest at the dollar theatre and Meatloaf was in it, Waffle Fri and I have a deep love for Meatloaf. Our friend says he'll dress like him and sing at our wedding for the first dance!! We love the idea!

Oh it's super exciting!! One of our roommates is moving out and our friend gets to move in which is great! It's nice living with people you get along with, but with this happening we also get the biggest room in the house which means more space, we are so excited! I also love that we get to create this room together fresh. We've agreed on paint colors (which happens to be my dream color) and rugs (which he is probably choosing the best one, strength over style lol) We get to have sides to our bed and our own closets! We also get the only room with air conditioning in it!

The state of our country is very sad. I've talked about moving out of the country during this election but I realized if all of us who wanted to did there would be no one great in this country left. I think now I'm going to fight. Fight against the hatred this man has for me (in more ways than one) fight for my friends, loved ones and neighbors. That night as we sat here in fear and sadness my boyfriend held my hand and I thought this is what matters: Love, togetherness, and finding the light in the darkness. Basically my friends for the next 4 years we are Disney Characters fighting a villain.

other then that we keep on livin and lovin, Fun fact we ate at this mexican in this show: