Thursday, July 28, 2016

if you have an awful ex


a very bad day and 3 little words.

I've had a bad day. I think its build up of the state of the world and such, but even as I was angrily doing the dishes I wasn't sure why and felt silly as I cried into the arms of Waffle Fri.


 
Just when I was feeling better after much need comfort from my guy we got a little more "Comfy" in the middle of it "I love you" was said. For the first time. I asked him about it after but he changed the subject and we got comfy again! Now I can't shut off my brain again. I turned to my closest girls and they all pretty much said talk to him....sound advice but until that happens I found some online advice and some pretty good thoughts are happening now.


For awhile now I have known I loved him but he hasn't had a relationship that lasted longer then a month and I don't know was waiting for the right moment which is only natural to think about Obviously, it's on the back of a Pegasus with a white chocolate saddle. Flying through a rainbow. Set to a Coldplay song. But I'm an understanding person--song rights are expensive.

Not going to lie I always thought it would be staring at some beautiful view on some adventure somewhere. 



Once it happened I felt like I was in a teen tv show and thought why does this happen to me!! apparently I am not alone! Ladies often feel that "It's just not fair." to happen at that moment. 

but you know what.... It could have been worse. 

What's messy and weird and imperfect? Humans. It makes like as beautiful, wonderful and the adventure that it is. 

Dude, say "I love you" whenever you want! Like I always say: There are no rules. 

and I love him too! 



A Hairy situation

Shaving has always been a huge part of shaving, annoying as it is. I had a boyfriend who refused to touch me if I didn't save and after that I often told thats what was preferred from other men.


Now I'm dating Waffle Fri who doesn't care. He doesn't even notice that I shave my legs. When we started dating I was completely shaved and he told me I could grow it out in a place that hasn't seen hair on women since the 80s!

The other day I over heard my new roommate talking on the phone with a girl who said she can't date because she now as a standing shower and finds it hard to shave, and because guys don't like girls with her she can't date and then they decided to talk about the rules of shaving.

I called in Waffle Fry and I kissed him hard on the face. I feel very lucky.

I have even got asked:Do guys actually care about pubes cause I really don't want to shave mine but I'm so scared to let anyone see them. Idk I just have conflicting feelings about them.

or I know guys that get asked : How do you feel about pubes? Does it bother you? I always get scared that if i get intimate with someone they will see me and run

Which this is what I would say:  if any sexual partner has a problem with pubes they’re an immature waste of time.
Whether you shave, wax, trim or let it do its thing; it’s totally up to you. Be comfortable!

While Waffle fri doesn't care and its the most wonderful comfortable thing to happen to me since I started dating, I like shaving my legs (actually because I am disabled and find shaving hard I use hair remover lotion  but you know hair removal) and during swimsuit season I take the pubes off! He doesn't care either way and thats how it should be. 




Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Its not all about guys....

I'm going to start posting some girl power post in the future. We are strong women who don't need a man.

"I didn't have the same fitness or ability as the other girls, so I had to beat them with my mind " - Martina Hingis

I get this post a lot, as a disabled person I felt like I always had to prove to people this is what I am really good at.

Some people take it the wrong way. I am learning as I grow older I have less to prove. Just know your strengths, know who you are, and always be willing to learn.


Thursday, July 21, 2016

11 Months and this is our lives

Breakfast and so many shows we watch together (so many that I find it hard to find something to watch while he has work) Making food for each other, making food together, exploring food together, We love food. Starting new patterns to fit into each other lives, like waking up to ask about his night at work when I would of normally been sleeping.



He puts cold things on me to make me jump.

Tickles me.

and can drive me crazy, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

He takes care of me like giving me ice packs when my sun burn is so bad I can't sleep.

There are so many times and so many things that make  my heart beat so fast i think i may have a heart attack. 

He'll eat my cooking even when its terrible, bring me cake when I want it,  I'm living the dream. 


Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Gotta get with my friends


I'm so glad that my bestie and my boyfriend and all my friends really get along. Its wonderful its like your circle of friends expands and gets better.


Monday, July 4, 2016

wise words

My grandmother once told me, “Relationships are work, honey, and they aren’t 50/50. Some days when I get up I only feel like giving 10%, then your granddaddy has to give 90% that day. But there is always 100% love.”
— 
Leigh Ann Lunsford
I had a friend going through a divorce that said no relationship is 50/50 that one partner always gives more and I thought that doesn't seem like it should be the case (it was in his but he is you no divorced on a 2nd marriage) this seems like wiser words for me. 

I am a giver in life and in any relationship I have I always the person giving more but some days it is WF. I think we are also learning to give to each other more and what the other person needs so I will remember these words and grow and learn and sometimes listen to this song: 


I'm on a boat

If you are in the market for dating a guy who owns a boat well there is a site for you.











Lately...

The past couple of days I’ve been having one of those moods where I feel disconnected from everything, like a stranger in my own skin, but even if life isn't how I plan WF makes me feel like less is more, and it reminded me of what home feels like.

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