Friday, January 29, 2016

What are some of your dating stories?

Let me know!! 

Wise words

if they don’t make you feel the way the pizza guy does when he rings your doorbell, they’re probably not worth it

Sunday, January 17, 2016

We're looking for a partner in crime.

I have found on the dates I have gone on that that people are looking mostly for someone to do something with them.

I just really want to go dancing but no one will go with me.

I would love to find someone to play board games with but my friends aren't really into it.

I don't really have friends a girlfriend would be my built in friend.

This is a bad way to go about dating. I myself have been guilty of being lonely or wanting to do something and just wishing there was someone to do it with me.

but you know what I have learned?

enjoy your own company. It’s ok to go shopping alone, go to the movies alone, go out to eat alone. be happy with yourself 

I have actually met great friends this way, and your not desperate and you learn about yourself and when you do meet someone its like hey I like to do this thing would you like to join me, not them with these built in ideals of you. 

Date yourself 

Friday, January 15, 2016

I was asked

Can you describe your dream house, dream car, dream partner, and dream Christmas?

Dream house: something old and well-worn. A big yard fit for pups and kids. Hardwood floors and pretty white tile. Lots of big windows with bright light. Open concept. Room for books and plants and blankets. A fireplace. Built-in shelves. A breakfast nook. And a front porch.

Dream partner: Makes me laugh, makes everything an adventure,  Passionate, compassionate, patient, creative, clever, firm in what he believes but with a heart that is softened to wisdom and guidance. Must love dogs. Tattoos are a plus. But mostly I’m a sucker for a tender heart.

Dream car: I used to be really into cars but now I’m pretty content just to drive something that runs and has room for all the things I haul around.

Dream Christmas: I like to think about future Christmases if/when I have a family of my own. I imagine making lots of decorations with my kids and teaching them the beauty of a simple Christmas and listening to them sing songs while Christmas records spin. I like the idea of passing on old traditions and starting fresh ones. What it will be like to spend with my family at that time and the Christmas that will come when I don't spend with my family.  Also a cute husband that I can give nice gifts to.

The little things that are big things

When we road tripped together we took a shower together which was really fun (I have a tiny shower it can't really be done) what was an interesting turn of events when my plumbing was being fixed i took a shower at his place but he was worried I would fall and couldn't do it so he helped me and that was a moment where I was like "Man I feel disabled" and he said why its not different.

The First time I took him to beach cleanup was a big deal. It was early for him to go (with him working late) and he had to drive a long way, and he was meeting some of my closest friends, well he passed the test and continues to every month. Now its something we both look forward to.

Just quiet moments together when I *sigh* and feel so very lucky

My life kinda got crazy with roommates, plumbing and all of that and he was  rock and really there for me. We had a house guest as well when all of that was going on and she had a crazy dog. One of the times that the plumber came by we were cleaning up after cooking and I asked if he would sit in my room with the dog while I deal with the plumbers. He said I am going to do the dishes I can handle the plumbers you go rest with the dog, the plumbers were there to fix my toilet but my water in my sink wasn't coming out very well and we had tried to fix it, he made sure to mention it to the plumbers something I wouldn't have done. My heart melted. Its the little things like when my mom goes in for surgery and I am stressing out he tells me they wouldn't do it if they didn't think it was safe and makes me guacamole.

Well...yeah.... *blushes*

Last night he said "why you so good to me" and I said "you are good to me" and he said "we're good for each other" I think thats how its supposed to be!

We had gone shopping together and I had meant to get lemon juice but we forgot. The next night we made Lobster Ravioli and decided to make a garlic cream sauce and said he would pick up some cream that I needed. Also in the bag was the lemon juice we forgot. These are the things that mean the most to me.

He loves cars and motorcycles. I realized the other day that I am learning the ones that he loves and doesn't love and knowing that you are learning and growing with someone just makes me smile.

Every laugh, conversation, or singing to a song on the radio.

When we enjoy the same books, movies and tv shows. I can't wait to see where else it takes us

Thursday, January 14, 2016


On our first date we talked about how we were both pro adoption and as long as there were kids who needed a home that seemed like a great idea.

I love this idea of course. I've learned though that I think there is a fear there of wanting to be around the baby babies.

He doesn't do diapers, who does really till you have to? and he is scared of a kid that will start crying, which I think he can get over.

Now I'm not saying here is a person saying they don't want kids and then saying they will change their minds. I'm smarter than that. My best friend doesn't want kids, actually neither of my best friends want kids.....they are both great with kids on a side note though. I have also watched relationships end because they just knew that she would change her mind and have a kid. I know thats not the case and that when it gets down to the nitty gritty I will have to have a talk to make sure we want the same things.

and a discussion of vaccinations.

I've watched this guy with my friends kids and he is great. I have watched him be and uncle and he is a great uncle.

He'll let slip things like "My kids" in conversation

My kids will be good drivers, My kids are going to go to preschool and be social, my kids are going to know about good music.

My kid will go to these school, and build cars, and I hope I have girls so I can teach them all kinds of things and treat them equal.

I think no one can really be prepared to be a parent it just happens, I don't know what the future holds for us or even myself but its interesting to think about.

He said at the airport lets adopt cute little Asian kids.

Maybe the future holds on this for us:

Who knows :)