Monday, November 28, 2016

When it was our one year anniversary I did some research for this blog to see what maybe other people learn after a year, I came across a post that I disagreed with almost 100% both views so let me post bit of it and give you my thoughts.

The Man’s Perspective First 

#1. Black and navy are never okay to wear together.

overall I don't care what my boyfriend wears. I might suggest to not tuck his pants into his boots when we go to a wedding but in all honesty if that's what he wants I let him. I like him for him not the clothes he wears and with that he gives me the same respect, he doesn't tell me not to cut my hair. I ask his opinion on outfits all the time and he will always tell me I look good, because he thinks I do no matter what! 

#2. Love is at its best when it’s truly a partnership and your goal is to support the other person’s success.

okay I will agree with you here buddy. We both do this for each other and I hope every relationship does this. 

#3. Even when she says farting is okay, it’s not okay. It’s never okay.

farting is a part of life and we both handle it like you should, which is funny he comes from the southern world where its a fart you ignore it, its part of life. My family cracks up at farts and find them hilarious. We find a good middle ground with this. We live together, we like to eat curry. It happens. I really hope for this couple they learn to to get over this one quickly. 

#4. A woman always wants to feel like she is being pursued and doesn’t want you to ever think the work is done.

Okay I will also give him this one, and my boyfriend does this but I would note it doesn't have to be big things. In our relationship we do things everyday for each other in little ways. 

#5. Never underestimate the power of worshipping with your significant other.

I know this one is important for religious couples. We agree 99% on religion I would say even though neither one of us really goes to church or practices a lot we have a lot of shared conversations and we respect each others viewpoints. 

The Woman’s Perspective

#1. Put down your cell phone.

I would agree, but my social media boyfriend loves his phone and I have learned to work around it. He puts it down when it's important but i don't need his undivided attention all the time so this is something I need to remember. 

#2. The worth of a man isn’t in the depth of his pockets, but the depth of his character.

I also agree on this one! Neither one us has much but we make it work (and dream someday that maybe we will have more) but we also love to pick up things on the side of the road, shop at goodwill and check out craigslist. It's fun. We also budget for fun things we really want to do but are also content eating a grilled cheese and watching bob's burgers at home. 

#3. If you let him fart once, you’ve opened Pandora’s Box.

see above 

#4. Power isn’t defined by dominance and control. It’s demonstrated in patience and grace.

How about no one has the power? 

#5. You will always have A LOT more to learn.

Okay we'll end it in a nice way but saying this is true. 

It’s me, your dream girl, in scrunched up socks and a blanket cape.

I have a surprise of you all, I have decided to come out of the hidden internet world (although it's been fun) I have decided to really blog about our lives in the New Year, maybe it will help other people and couples to see just how we are, look, and live our lives. 

A relationship with a good flirt to roast ratio>>>

is a must! 

always be the real you my readers

Your affection for others can cause you to turn yourself into a stranger.
They like your hair straight, so you straighten it. They think your genuine laugh is too obnoxious, so you tone it down at dinners and parties. They think you’re too much of a softie, so you hide your tears when they say something negative about you and pretend to have thicker skin than what’s really there. Before you know it, you’ve altered so much of yourself that you don’t even know who the hell you are anymore.
Take a stand. Whoever ‘they’ may be to you, be aware of how much you’re compromising for them. If you can no longer breathe the same way around them, it’s time to show them the door.

what is the difference between falling in love and having a crush

if they get a haircut and they’re ugly it’s a crush

In popular culture we have “the bachelor pad,” and “the bachelor lifestyle,” but no such phrases for women. Women who live alone are objects of fear or pity, witches in the forest or Cathy comics. Even the current cultural popularity of female friendship still speaks to how unwilling we all are to accept women without a social framework; a woman who’s “alone” is a woman who’s having brunch with a bunch of other women. When a woman is truly alone, it is the result of a crisis—she is grieving, has lost something, is a problem to be fixed. The family, that fundamental social unit, dwells within the female body and emanates from it. Women are the anchors of social labor, the glue pulling the family, and then the community, together with small talk and good manners and social niceties. Living alone as a woman is not just a luxury but a refusal to bend into the shape of patriarchal assumption and expectation.

A student asked a teacher:
“ whats the difference between I like you and I love you?”
The teacher beautifully answered with:
“ well its like a flower. If you like a flower, you pluck it.
If you love a flower, you water it every day and take care of it”
And if you understand that my friend, you’ll understand the concept of love and life.
— A great friend of mine told me this (via keen-z)

Texting and dating is the worst!

  • me: texting him first is too desperate. in this age, a modern woman needs to be independent. i am a strong and busy lady. i will restrain myself, and keep myself an enigma.
  • me five seconds later: life is too short to not live your passions fully. i'm going to text first; i free myself from society's restrains. without risk there is no reward

I may not have to worry about that now but the idea of it gives me chills. Stay strong my friends! 

Sometimes I need to remind myself of this

Every single relationship will get “boring” after you’ve been together for ages. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a commitment; to love every day, physically and emotionally. It’s hard afff, it’s not always laughs and smiles and fun. People tend to quit when it stops being cute. “Oh the spark is gone.” No, that’s not how it works. You want somebody to never give up on you and love you unconditionally? Do the same. This isn’t Hollywood, this isn’t romantic happy ever after bs. Love someone when you don’t want to, when they are being a fricken asshole. When they’re being hard to love. That’s thats the realist shit there is.

The first few days of being with my family was rough and I questioned things but we soon got back to ourselves and it's good to remind yourself it's not always easy! 

Friday, November 18, 2016

Busy time of year

Halloween came and went, it was amazing and fun and I love that I am dating a guy that made such a simple, and the events we did so much. After Halloween Waffle fri decided he was going to say your mom after everything I said. Thats fun. :)

Now we get ready for Holiday Travel. We are flying for the first time together to my mom's house for Thanksgiving, we had a great time last year but we drove which didn't give us much time with my family. My mom had some good money come in with work so she offered to buy our tickets so we get a nice 10 day vacation.

The bittersweet part for me is I am spending Thanksgiving with Waffle Fries Family. I am excited to go to a part of the country I have never been and to finally meet his family. She a part of this person I loves world but it is sad that I am not with my family. I had to spend a Christmas once alone for work and it was sad so at least this year I will be with people I love and who are welcoming me in like a member of their family, which I think both families look at us that way.

His sister even wants us to be a part of the Family Christmas card so we are taking a Holiday photo while at my mom's (We are putting the Christmas stuff up the day after Thanksgiving so I will get to be a part of it a little) It's going to be very Christmas and themed but then we decided maybe we will do our own and put our own spin on it and email it out to friends and family.

we are excited to eat, we love food and love sharing food together. Lately I am big on the Gingerbread cookies from Coffee Bean.

I have felt so thankful for this man the past two weeks. Fighting a cold he has taken care of me and been there and it's so wonderful. I love those little moments where I stop and realize with a smile I love my life and where it is and he makes it so much better!

We went and saw the movie sausage fest at the dollar theatre and Meatloaf was in it, Waffle Fri and I have a deep love for Meatloaf. Our friend says he'll dress like him and sing at our wedding for the first dance!! We love the idea!

Oh it's super exciting!! One of our roommates is moving out and our friend gets to move in which is great! It's nice living with people you get along with, but with this happening we also get the biggest room in the house which means more space, we are so excited! I also love that we get to create this room together fresh. We've agreed on paint colors (which happens to be my dream color) and rugs (which he is probably choosing the best one, strength over style lol) We get to have sides to our bed and our own closets! We also get the only room with air conditioning in it!

The state of our country is very sad. I've talked about moving out of the country during this election but I realized if all of us who wanted to did there would be no one great in this country left. I think now I'm going to fight. Fight against the hatred this man has for me (in more ways than one) fight for my friends, loved ones and neighbors. That night as we sat here in fear and sadness my boyfriend held my hand and I thought this is what matters: Love, togetherness, and finding the light in the darkness. Basically my friends for the next 4 years we are Disney Characters fighting a villain.

other then that we keep on livin and lovin, Fun fact we ate at this mexican in this show: 

Monday, October 24, 2016

I was reading something that  pointed out how whenever beauty vloggers on youtube do those, “my boyfriend does my makeup” challenges; the guy never seems to know what he’s doing, he doesn’t know what contouring is or highlighting and everyone thinks he’s just being a dude but really it shows that he obviously doesn’t watch his girlfriend’s videos that she’s clearly passionate about making, if he can’t understand something as simple as a primer and that really sucks
I also think about how wild it is that women get mocked and made fun of for pretending to be interested in sports and other things that are typically understood as male interests, and it seems like we’re the weird ones for doing that, but it’s crazy how there’s no pressure on men to be interested in, or at least understand anything considered feminine, like, wouldn’t you want to have knowledge about something your significant other is interested in?
I see memes where the guy is shopping for what to get his girlfriend and someone suggests a highlighter and dude goes out and gets sharpie highlighters! Then people think it’s hilarious, because he’s just a guy being a dude y'know but if a girl doesn’t know shit about basketball, or football, or video games, or cars, or comics or whatever else she’s an idiot.

It is a double standard and I doubt WF will ever do my makeup, not that I am that into it....But he listens to me talk about Disney and I listen to him talk about cars which would be the same thing and we are still learning from each other. He doesn't read my blog which is a huge part of (My disney one) but he supports it and supports me so part of me thinks okay you don't have to do anything but I think the real issue is that we shouldn't look down on anyone for trying in a relationship in any way. Will your boyfriend know all about makeup? probably not but give him some effort if he is trying, and if he isn't trying and it means something to you, talk to him about it! 

Sorry I am such a busy goober. 
We are a couple of Halloween nerds and thats been keeping us very busy this year. I feel very lucky to be dating a guy that encourages my love and being a complete dork for Holidays.

Whenever I get ready or look a mess he will,Tell me I’m cute or something I roll my eyes at him but then blush when I think about it later. Sometimes I want him to be honest but its sweet and he helps with with my hair all the time so thats kinda awesome! 

He has been making silly fish lips  and pretending not to know how to kiss while I’m trying to kiss him until I can’t help but laugh! 

 I think there needs to be Less “I love you the way you are so please don’t ever change” and more “I love you the way you are, and I will love and support you in any changes you need to make to be happy”.

I am pretty sure we are both people that will support that. 

Friday, September 9, 2016

We're going to Disneyland!!

For Halloween, and the dorkiness starts. My poor boyfriend.

Thursday, September 8, 2016

With this blog I shared dating stories that bonded us all. Now I hope I can help disabled people with my relationship. Lately I have had some friends who are upset that I am no longer single to bond with them.

Not true! I've been there! Longer than some, shorter than some! That's just life and it seems really unfair that me being happy makes you unhappy. Isn't that why we're dating? Isn't that what we all hope for? Weren't we all dreaming of finding that guy? and now that I have found someone it upset you?

Dating is hard I get it, I had a friend say to me the other day she wishes she could skip over the awkwardness and hard work and be where I am. Only my relationship is still awkward and hard work, we're still dating, it's not just ooo I won now it's over. Even if we got married it's still going to be awkward and hard work!

Listen loves i get it, I get the I am single as fuck feelings, Trust me!! But don't rain on my parade because you aren't happy. Even if I did feel like that I never was unhappy for someone else who has found love.

I mean really what does that do any good for either of us, how would you be better off if I was single?

Please still share your dating stories with me, even if they are gross, annoying, and awful! Because I do still get it!

and keep searching.

Relationships are not a tv show.

I'm here with you each step of the way.

Just don't be a jerk about it

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Getting cheated on is traumatizing and fucks people up for years and y'all still think it’s hilarious


can y'all stop glorifying cheating and side culture because that shit is toxic and really destroys people
We road tripped to a wedding. Crossing places I have never been. It was wonderful and a great test. I met his friends whom I didn't really click with and later there would be huge drama over facebook. It was a good lesson in compromise and the fact that I had to be the bigger person and say sorry and try and be friends for the sake of our relationship.

Waffle Fri is gone this week on a trip with his parents so it is me on my own which is me bringe watching Gilmore girls and cleaning the house but I do miss him a lot!

and wouldn't this be nice, not saying anything is wrong at all (we're doing great) just in the relationship world.

Friday, August 19, 2016

A year ago today

I wrote this in my blog:

 went on the perfect date. He had messaged me on Tinder and he was a wannabe filmmaker and drives for lyft to make his money and I thought I don't want to date someone in the biz and I sadly kinda blew him off. Although later when I went to Shakespeare in the park and thought an actor was hot I thought well I would date him and he started somewhere maybe I shouldn't judge.

Well he texted me the other day saying he wouldn't normally do that but he wanted to see if I might be interested and I thought what the heck.

We went out for pizza and wine. The conversation was great from the start and the undeniable chemistry was there.

Then we went out for Churro Ice Cream sandwiches, it was clear we had a lot in common and I liked him the more and more I got to know him, We didn't want it to end so we decided to go to the Griffith Observatory and well surprise they had a huge free concert going on there so the whole hill was packed so we parked off to the side and talked, and realized we didn't want it to end there and well......The date officially ended at 2pm the next day :) 

He also asked me if I wanted to go to this Shakespeare in the park in Beverly hills and I said yes. I packed food and blankets, he brought wine and his roommate and his friend and it was nice and great and I enjoyed the company all around.
Since we were in Beverly Hills someone suggested we get Sprinkles cupcakes and well we were sold on the idea so we head over to find it will take 30 minutes to re-stalk the vending machine and there was already a long line so  my date is from Glendale and we remember that there is one in Glendale and decided to go there even though he has to drop of someone in burbank and me in Los Angeles he was all for this adventure (just what I have been looking for)
It was just lovely.

I hope I get to explore this more.

explore more...I have! A lot can happen in a year.

thousands of cheesy moments and lots of laughter.  I can’t stop falling more and more in love with that goofball with each joke.

I've learned so much about History, cars, and the world, the countless time I watched his eyes light up whenever he talks about something he loves and I as a mere mortal cannot handle the pure love radiating from him, I also love that I have gotten to branch out, grow and learn. 

We've shared everything you possibly can this year.

We've given gifts, made things for each other, gone on many adventures, trips, and many many meals.

We like each others friends. We like each other enough that when I say something wrong, fart, or am just a big dork and vice versa we still love each other.

Sometimes I just look at him and think how lucky I am to have this dream boat and such a nice guy!

We've spent the year supporting each other in every way possible.

my boyfriend is such a dork and I can’t stop smiling. It has been a year of smiles. 

a year of hugs, kisses, and ass grabs. 

a year of ups and downs but always having each others backs.  A year of him keeping me warm when I am cold. 

and lots of soda refills. 

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

date someone who loves your belly

I asked my boyfriend today if he liked my belly, he said he doesn't think about and that my belly can be however I want it to be.

I'll take it! 

Monday, August 15, 2016

Dear young ones

Listen to your elders, find inspiration where you can, and don't worry.

and watch this 

and beat to your own rhythm.

Monday, August 8, 2016

Wise words from girls whose names start with K

I think this video is a lot of me. Also if you have read my blog you know the struggles I have had dating people that shamed me for my anxiety so if you ever feel that way too, I want you to know you aren't alone. Kristen and I understand. 

Was this all of us?

i always had my head wrapped around the idea of getting into a wonderful university and getting a good job and getting married and having a family and being able to support them but for some reason now all i want to do is travel and eat new foods and meet new people and get a tan and buy a one way ticket and not come home

I grew up in a small town where this is what people did, dreamed about, and was the goal. I used to joke that I could win the nobel prize and no one would care unless there was a man by my side. 

I still think about getting married, think up wedding ideas (have a secret wedding Pinterest Board) but it's not the end goal for my life.  In fact I would be okay just doing the bottom part with someone, and if that's not in card then by myself. 

I think I found that person but you never know what life has in store for you it's also good to remember.