Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Disabled people have sex?


I think what a lot of people forget is that disabled people can be sexual and romantic beings. We are so often infantilized, that we are stripped of our sensuality and sexual feelings. I think this was one of the reasons it took me so long to meet and date people, I think even if I didn't realize it  that I stopped seeing myself as a woman with sexual feelings until I was nearly 22. I Look back and I think I had thoughts and ideas but they weren't as they really should of been and maybe my lack of help from society and others around me really had a part in that. 

While I have talked about this before here and there are great articles like this one

There are other aspects to this that I have had to worry about and cross my mind

I don't wear heels and those are often seen as sexy, as jokes are made on tv shows about girls who wear flats on dates clearly don't want sex.....I can wear heels but I like the idea that one minute my first date could be eating pizza and the next minute we are going to go hiking in Griffith park.

I've worked hard to feel comfortable in my body (and continue to do so) I won't lie still I wonder would a guy rather be with a girl who doesn't have to stop for leg pain.

Feeling sexy is something I work on everyday I hope society can too! 

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