Friday, October 23, 2015

I have always said it, its the little things.

I’m so in love with his mind. The first thing that made me stop and pay attention was how he chose his  words. That while he was in a field I normally avoid I like this writing style. I can listen to his  stories for hours on end. The first time we stayed up late. I couldn’t get enough of you. I can’t get enough of you. I want to know everything about you. I want all of your words.

I want them passionately describing your work and research. I want them softly recalling good times with friends. I want them in a different cadence when you’re quoting your favorite tv shows. I want them quietly whispering secrets and confessions. I want them steady and strong when you’re making sure I know you’re being completely serious. I want them fighting through laughter in response to something I said.

I love flirting with you. The inside jokes. The fact that we already know each other so well. 

I have loved everything how you come in and take care of things in the house because I live with the laziest people in the world, how we plan meals together and work in the kitchen as a team. How you were excited to go to a Lesbian Haunted House with me. How you want to meet my friends and family so you know exactly what I am talking about. 

These little things are stringing together a person I am so very glad to be getting to know. 

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Disabled people have sex?


I think what a lot of people forget is that disabled people can be sexual and romantic beings. We are so often infantilized, that we are stripped of our sensuality and sexual feelings. I think this was one of the reasons it took me so long to meet and date people, I think even if I didn't realize it  that I stopped seeing myself as a woman with sexual feelings until I was nearly 22. I Look back and I think I had thoughts and ideas but they weren't as they really should of been and maybe my lack of help from society and others around me really had a part in that. 

While I have talked about this before here and there are great articles like this one

There are other aspects to this that I have had to worry about and cross my mind

I don't wear heels and those are often seen as sexy, as jokes are made on tv shows about girls who wear flats on dates clearly don't want sex.....I can wear heels but I like the idea that one minute my first date could be eating pizza and the next minute we are going to go hiking in Griffith park.

I've worked hard to feel comfortable in my body (and continue to do so) I won't lie still I wonder would a guy rather be with a girl who doesn't have to stop for leg pain.

Feeling sexy is something I work on everyday I hope society can too! 

Thursday, October 8, 2015

A new guide was made about women disabilities and sexual health

Find it here

This is often very important as disabled people are often not viewed as sexual beings. I have talked about this before here.

I for many years in my life didn't want to think that my disability made me any different, I could do anything.

I used to have arthritis in my chest it was very painful (I still get some pain from time to time) I was more worried about that happening then I was about my CP with sex that I was like hey I should research that as well, I did for bit and its good to be aware.

For me personally it changes per partner, what I can do and being understanding.

My current partner is wonderful. Sometimes my leg starts to hurt and we'll switch. We've tried different things one time I thought I was going to fall off the bed and we just laughed, it was wonderful ;)

I have also been able to do things I didn't know I could, and its amazing to find this person that I get to learn and discover and explore and it makes me feel better in this situation, I don't even think he knows these things, I am just saying "YOU GO GIRL" in my head the whole time lol.

I think its a lot harder for me to go to the OBGYN where they didn't understand a lot and asked a lot of what I thought was stupid questions, When I told my doctor she was understanding and found me someone better to go to.

Its important to go though to the OBGYN for your health.