Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Sunday, August 23, 2015

a lot of people feel this way

Often times I am told this buy someone I know

I hate dating. I hate the way people date now. I just want to be with the person I’m going to be with. I just want to know who I’m going to marry and start working towards building that life together. People nowadays date recklessly. We treat each other like we are trying on shoes: no matter how well something fits we still want to see how we look in something else. I want no part of that.

Now I agree with that end part I think that is part of the struggle but when we're told don't settle and search for the one and we're expected to have some big sign as to know when we've found them of course thats how these things tend to happen. 

I think maybe what it comes down to is there needs to be a middle ground between these things. 

While sometimes yes I think this a lot at this moment right now

I went on a date with a guy I didn't think it would go anywhere and I was just going to go and have pizza and was surprised and I continue to be surprised.

We have a lot of fun together and its exciting to meet someone new and get to know them and almost think "wow this is what I was looking for"

To like someone

To see where it might take you

Saturday, August 22, 2015

Wanting to marry a runner or someone who loves the outdoors, *especially if you’re a runner*, is anything but shallow! I was just talking to a friend about this last Tuesday after something we do called the Lantern Run. Every Tuesday we meet at 6 in the evening and run anywhere from 5-8k, ending at The Lantern for brews! I need someone who has the dedication to do the footwork and the bodywork because of the mental and physical play it takes. Mental capacity to override yourself and keep your body moving even when you’re barely out of breath and think that stopping would be easier. The reality is, people who move their body on a daily basis and spend time outside want to do something: better themselves, push themselves, or run away from or onto** something.  Moving to take care of your body and brain, to explore your abilities or your world, to chase down a change; that’s healthy and it is so fucking sexy.

I think about this a lot. I dated a guy who had started to become a runner. He ran on the beach and I offered to sit on the beach and read or do yoga while he ran but he never agreed to this, then we broke up and he said he wanted a runner and someone who drinks coffee *eye roll* 

So does that mean an athletic guy is never going to be into me because I work out in my own way. Or one day at work this very good looking man covered in tattoos came up to my desk and I thought well guys like that only really date girls also covered in tattoos. 

So I don't know what guy I fit with......

With this pattern one could say a disabled person but well I don't have the best record in being attracted to those dudes so.....

Friday, August 21, 2015

Break the rules

I went on the perfect date. He had messaged me on Tinder and he was a wannabe film maker and drives for lyft to make his money and I thought I don't want to date someone in the biz and I sadly kinda blew him off. Although later when I went to Shakespeare in the park and thought an actor was hot I thought well I would date him and he started somewhere maybe I should judge.

Well he texted me the other day saying he wouldn't normally do that but he wanted to see if I might be interested and I thought what the heck.

We went out for pizza and wine. The conversation was great from the start and the undeniable chemistry was there.

Then we went out for Churro Ice Cream sandwiches, it was clear we had a lot in common and I liked him the more and more I got to know him, We didn't want it to end so we decided to go to the Griffith Observatory and well surprise they had a huge free concert going on there so the whole hill was packed so we parked off to the side and talked, and realized we didn't want it to end there and well......The date officially ended at 2pm the next day :)

He also asked me if I wanted to go to this Shakespeare in the park in Beverly hills and I said yes. I packed food and blankets, he brought wine and his roommate and his friend and it was nice and great and I enjoyed the company all around.

Since we were in Beverly Hills someone suggested we get Sprinkles cupcakes and well we were sold on the idea so we head over to find it will take 30 minutes to re-stalk the vending machine and there was already a long line so  my date is from Glendale and we remember that there is one in Glendale and decided to go there even though he has to drop of someone in burbank and me in Los Angeles he was all for this adventure (just what I have been looking for)

It was just lovely.

I hope I get to explore this more.

Everything he said and did (Minus a few little things here and there that don't matter) I wanted to be like

Monday, August 17, 2015

Have some more advice

1. Do what this guy did!!

So my dating life has been kinda slow, people travel a lot during this time of year, and enjoy the freedom of summer I guess, it will start to pick up as they start dreaming of couples costumes ideas and not wanting to spend the Holidays alone :)

So here are some fun things to remember and think about while you to wait for your dream catch.

2. Shaving is optional.
3. Actions always speak louder than words.
4. Sex should be fun. If you’re not laughing, you’re doing it with the wrong person.
5. Life isn’t a movie.
6. Only wear what you feel comfortable in and not what’s in style at the time.
7. It’s much better to have a small group of good friends than a big group of fake ones.
8. Go skinny dipping.
9. Write things down. Your story is an important one.
10. Wear sunscreen.
11. If it was meant to work, it would have. Don’t force something that’s dead to keep growing.
12. Take care of your feet.
13. Like what you like.
14. Listen to your grandparents’ stories from the 50s. Watch their eyes light up as they take a trip down memory lane.
15. A good pair of jeans never fails.
16. Men mature slower than women. Just keep that in mind.
17. Everybody has cellulite.
18. Don’t allow yourself to be used as a rebound. If he didn’t care about you then, what makes you think he’s cares now? Stay wise.
19. Always carry tampons. You never know.
20. If words fail, make a playlist.
21. Stop reserving places in your life for people who don’t want to be there.
22. Study. You won’t regret it.
23. You won’t enjoy that salad as much as you’ll enjoy the pizza so don’t kid yourself.
24. Watch the news. Know the world you live in.
25. Apologize when you should.
26. Wear dresses that are tight enough to show you’re a woman but loose enough to show you’re a lady.
27. Don't listen to dating rules too much. 
28. Sing loud and proud.
29. First dates are exciting. Enjoy them.
30. Dream.
31. If you want a bikini body, put a bikini on your body. There.
32. Don’t be afraid of change.
33. A good laugh and a long sleep can cure pretty much anything.
34. If you know in your heart that something is worth fighting for, then fight. And don’t give up until you win.
35. Make a scrapbook.
36. If you’re not losing friends, you’re not growing up.
37. Listen.
38. If you fail, try again.
39. A leather jacket will always help you to feel more badass.
40. Never hide your true feelings.
41. Be blind to gender, race, sexuality, religion, disability and difference.
42. Walk along the beach at midnight.
43. The only way to get answers is to ask questions.
44. Drive carefully when it snows.
45. Put your phone away at a concert and enjoy it. Nobody on Twitter cares that you’re there.
46. Beauty is a state of mind, not state of body.
47. Try your best not to hate the girl who flirts with the guy you like. Don’t allow somebody else’s feelings to turn yours bitter.
48. Buy bras that actually fit.
49. Collect something.
50. Really think before sending intimate photos to someone. Or at least just hide your face.
51. Dance.
52. A great red lipstick will always be a worthy investment.
53. If he tries something on the first date, know that he only asked you out for one reason. Don't be shocked if its a one time thing or just about Sex. 
54. Be kind to your skin.
55. Nobody is perfect, so stop trying to be.
56. Spend time with your siblings. They’re going to be your friends for life.
57. Be the friend you wish you had.
58. A good cry is good therapy.
59. Stop hitting the snooze button. Seize the day.
60. Don’t try to change somebody who doesn’t want to change. You’re only wasting your own time.
61. Watch ‘Titanic’.
62. Spend time with the family at Christmas.
63. Enjoy young love while you can. There will never come another time when you will be more honest and vulnerable and thrilled at everything that’s new.
64. Don’t cry over a haircut. It will grow.
65. Keep other people’s secrets.
66. No one has it all, so learn to make the best of what you do have while you have it. And take good care of it.
67. Write.
68. Try not to bite your nails.
69. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Just stop it.
70. Leave a summer fling in the summer.
71. It’s okay to not know what the hell you’re doing with your life yet.
72. Text your mom at least twice on a night out to reassure her that you’re fine. She’s a mom. She worries.
73. Yoga is good for the soul.
74. Take pride in your achievements.
75. The end of a relationship doesn’t always have to be someone’s fault or a rejection. Sometimes it’s just the end of something that wasn’t right for you.
76. Smart is sexy.
77. A jealous friend is more dangerous than a blatant enemy.
78. Realize that “texting someone” isn’t enough. It’s fun at first but you deserve to have it go somewhere. So if all of your conversations are said with your thumbs, delete his number.
79. That spot on your forehead really doesn’t matter.
80. Not every debate needs your input. Sometimes you have to just take a deep breath and walk away.
81. Pour your own drinks.
82. Who cares if you get the answer wrong?
83. Forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
84. If someone isn't writing back its because they no longer want to talk to you
85. Sometimes people just suck.
86. Don’t be afraid of removing toxic people from your life. It’s not worth having people around you who do nothing but bring you down.
87. Eat what you want.
88. Try not to be late.
89. Write up a good resume. Spend time checking for grammar and spelling mistakes. Toot your own horn. Make the effort to get somewhere.
90. Trust your instincts.
91. If somebody can’t do something, they will try and tell you that you can’t either. Don’t you dare listen. Prove them wrong.
92. Drink tea.
93. Put yourself first
94. First impressions are important but not always accurate.
95. See other people’s points of view, too.
96. Life is unpredictable. Seek change and understand that things may not always work out the way you anticipated. Roll with it.
97. Failure is success when you learn from it.
98. Breathe.
99. You are more than enough.
100. The fresh start you’re waiting for can arrive at any minute.
101. This is only the beginning.

Thursday, August 13, 2015

The Most Truest Statement ever!!

For any romantic gesture to work, the recipient has to already have feelings for you, otherwise the gesture comes of as creepy.

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

You never know what will happen on a date

I love hearing other dating stories. Here is one this lovely girl told me:

one time I met up with a guy from okcupid at a bar and he brought me a bag of lettuce from his garden 

I think thats my new Goal.....


I read an article the other day about  millennials not wanting children and the valid reasons they give. Needless to say I am surrounded by guys who feel the same way.

While those are valid points and you know "good for you but not for me"

I need to find the guy that wrote this:

It’s no secret I think kids are awesome. I’d love to have some one day, preferably with you. (I’m adorable, but they should get to have your eyes and smile and kindness) I know it won’t always be perfect and we’re all likely to be huge pains in the ass for everyone else at one time or another, but damn it, I think it’s worth it. 

Picture this: We’re all in the kitchen - you, me, the kids. I just got them all little aprons with their names embroidered in them. Don’t ask why, it happened. The plan was to make a fancy breakfast together because family is coming over next weekend for a holiday and we should have a practice run. You’re the only one who hasn’t lost it because I’ve somehow gotten into a flour battle with the monsters and I’ve got the littlest one wrapped in my arms, sitting on the floor, trying to block more flour attacks from the older ones. 

I hope you had sense to go grab the camera, because it’s definitely a memory I want framed. 

Needless to say, fancy breakfast didn’t happen…but I don’t even care.

Tuesday, August 11, 2015


Never date anyone you couldn’t dance with around your living room.

Monday, August 3, 2015

Great Wine Bad Breath

Remember the guy I really like his profile but he took forever to reply? Well we went on a  date last night. We went to a wine bar by my house which was really nice. It might be my new date spot, anyways on to the date.

He wasn't anything like what our chats would apply but that wasn't a bad thing he just wasn't fully the picture in my head. The conversation was nice and we joked and laughed, made plans to go to this board game bar.

He did have bad breathe (which is  huge date killer for me) but he confessed he had in and out on the way over and yeah the onions are pretty breathe killers as well I knew from a few days before. So I will give him another chance with that one.

He is headed to Washington and Oregon for two weeks so we talked about that, and we hate cheese and drank wine and just talked  (all topics you aren't suppose to talk about on a date) but it was nice.

We also ate this pasta that is served in a giant thing of cheese!!! It was amazing!

It was a nice first date and I think I need to see more to know if this will lead to anything, we texted today so that is a good sign.

In other news dates are so awkward. Is he going to pay? should I reach for my wallet? should I offer oh but he just put his card down and is still talking while I reach for my purse what to do what to do what to do....okay you can pay.....

Then after that moment is passed there is the walk to the door. Is he going to kiss me? Is he going to kiss me with that bad breath? What do you say post date? Thank you? talk to you later? See you soon?