Thursday, April 23, 2015

This crazy game called....Finding love

There are a lot of opinions out there in the world about everything......I feel like 80% of those are what to do in your dating life.


Needless to say I am bad at this but I find that guys do come around more when I don''t seem interested which is so not me to play these games.  The whole hard to get thing is just crazy to me. 

Let them miss you. Sometimes when you’re always available, they take you for granted because they think you’ll always stay.

I said this to my best friend and she said yes but that's not you to do that and sure sometimes that works but you aren't being true to yourself or them and don't you want them to like you for you and you them? 
She's so smart: 

life is short and weird and it’s important to tell people how you really feel about them
I’ve stopped being sorry for all my soft. I won’t apologize because I miss you, or because I said it, or because I text you first, or again. I think everyone spends too much time trying to close themselves off. I don’t want to be cool or indifferent, I want to be honest.
Never stop yourself texting someone. If you love them at 4 a.m., tell them. If you still love them at 9.30 a.m., tell them again.

this is more my style 

Or Post like this one
They will find time to spend with you, even if it’s 5 minutes out of the day. “Busy” or not.



NO
It’s just not true.
If the trust is reciprocal, than you don’t need to talk every day. Sometimes people are busy. lives happen. Jobs happen. People happen. It’s harmful to friendships and relationships alike to uphold this sort of paradigm; if they care about you they will still care about you no matter how busy they are. And if you trust them you’ll know that they still care even if they can’t squeeze out some time for you. 


I think doubt is always going to be there and its hard to know what to do with all these things being thrown out there. 

I consistently leave social situations feeling like I’ve talked too much and too loudly, and emphatically said things I don’t mean. I leave wishing I’d given more compliments and eaten more slowly. How do other people speak so fluidly, tell their stories so gracefully? I am messy and hungry and always swearing, always starting my sentences without knowing where they’ll end. 


Then again there is always just the really great advice. 
Fluff rice with a fork, never stir it with a spoon.
Vaseline is the best night time eye cream on the market.
You can buy alcohol and chips with your parents’ gas station credit cards.
If you force something, you’ll break it. That could be good or bad.
It’s important to read the care tags on your clothing and follow those instructions.
Related: don’t wash and dry j. crew wool sweaters.
Changing your car’s oil is not optional.
Whatever physical objects you acquire you will one day have to put into a box and move.
You’re allowed to disagree with negative feedback.
It’s always worth reading the instruction manual.
Nostalgia, like any drug, can be a poison or a remedy.
Pets are like human friends but better in every conceivable way.
Good doctors listen more than they talk.
You can’t fix a burned roux.
Floss.
Just because someone is an authority figure does not mean they are intelligent/competent/right.
Measure twice, cut once.
Get your nice jeans and dress pants tailored by a professional.
If you’re uncomfortable wearing it you will not look good.
You’re not required to drink alcohol while in a bar.
There are a few things that cure all ills: the beach, your favorite album on vinyl, and fresh garlic.
Kindness is not weakness.
Baking soda is not baking powder.
Taking Excedrin P.M. while still in public is not advisable.
Terrible people will succeed. Wonderful people will fail. The world is not fair.
Appropriate footwear is always key.
You can absolutely be too forgiving.
Real humor punches up, not down.
Reading the assigned chapters will actually help you learn the material.
There are no adults. Everyone is as clueless as you are.
Applying eyeliner well is a timeless art.
You can always leave. Awkward dates, suffocating jobs, hometowns that you outgrow, relationships that aren’t growing in the right direction.
You can always come home again.
But it won’t be the same.
Life is too short for bad books, boring movies, shitty people, and margarine.
Never underestimate the importance of eyebrows.

also there is a rule you aren't suppose to have to-go boxes on a date I don't follow that one either.....like my to-go box rule I say go with your gut. 


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